An unfiltered podcast about parenting

 
 
 
 
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 This is The Great Equalizer, an honest, unfiltered, unapologetic and (at times) irreverent parenting podcast about the realities of being a mom (or dad!) in modern Jozi.

#nojudgies

 
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Episode 38: Future-Proof Your Child

WITH NIKKI BUSH

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam relays her journey to being crowned Mom of the Year, Charlene survived the wedding (in case you were wondering) and we talk future-proofing your child with human potential and parenting expert Nikki Bush.

Every child will ask their parent what they think they should be when they grow up. Are you ready with an answer? If you just mouthed “Fuck no!” then we’re right there with you. We don’t even know what we wanna be when we grow up!

Luckily, Nikki Bush knows a thing or two about parenting AND the future – and she’s written a book about it to help a sister out. Co-authored with parent, futurist and global speaker Graeme Codrington, the latest edition of Future-Proof Your Child for the 2020s and Beyond doesn’t just paint a picture of what the future might hold for the next generation, it offers some practical advice for parents, guiding us to build solid foundations for our children. This book is an invaluable guide that helps parents create realistic and relevant parenting goals that will set our children up to thrive, no matter what awaits them in future.

Quite honestly, guys, talking to Nikki made us feel a lot less anxious about our kids’ future. You want to read this book! But also… You want to listen to this episode!

Bonus Episode: ENOUGH!

WITH THE NEW NORMAL’S GENEVIEVE PUTTER

This week on the Great Equalizer, Sam flies solo at the end of #hellweek in South Africa. Luckily, post-partum doula and founder of The New Normal Genevieve Putter swoops in to relieve Sam from 60 minutes of monologuing.

It truly was a week from hell. For those of you living in South Africa, you’ll know that life around us – in some places literally – went up in smoke. A lot happened all at once in terms of gender-based violence, on top of a public kidnapping and xenophobic riots. If we weren’t angry we were sad, depressed, anxious, fearful. It was all just a little too much. This was a big topic to tackle, but necessary. Sam and Gen discuss the week’s events, acknowledging their feelings and fears as women, as moms and as South Africans. They also consider what’s next for South Africa.

Episode 37: CLOTH NAPPIES

WHAT DO YOU DO WITH ALL THAT POO?

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is chilled like a lemon, Charlene is ready for some nuptials and the duo pull their heads out of the sand and talk Modern Cloth Nappies with South African Cloth Nappy Users founder Catherine Dowie. Tune in to hear all about why cloth nappies are not as complicated as you might think (also, hear all about Sam’s failed cloth nappy journey and find out if she’ll be ready to take the plunge when No 2 becomes a thing. This episode was proudly sponsored by Busy Bottoms Nappy Service.

Episode 36: WOMEN’S DAY 2019

STRIKE A WOMAN, STRIKE A ROCK

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam's faith in humanity is restored, Charlene takes her weekends back, and Sam argues with Charlene about Women's Day. This episode seeks to honour all the brave South African women who marched to the Union Buildings on 9 August, 1956. Those who protested the Apartheid regime with the utmost grace, dignity, discipline, courage and humility. Bad language aside, these are all virtues we strive to emulate here on TGE.

Episode 35: TANTRUMS!

WITH PHILLIPPA MORASSI

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam’s about to get fit AF, Charlene is captain of her ship and we talk TEMPER TANTRUMS. PLUS! We welcome back children's counsellor Phillippa Morassi. Now, we all know that it's age-appropriate for toddlers to lose their shit. Maybe you gave them the wrong coloured sippy cup, maybe they can't find the yellow teddy bear they don't actually own, maybe they want the sandwich they rejected ten seconds before crying about wanting the sandwich, maybe they don't want you to look at them. Or breathe. Yes, tantrums are developmental and "this too shall pass" but, firstly, what do you do when you can see the tantrum on the horizon? What do you do to prevent it from being a full-on meltdown? How do you know when the run-of-the-mill tantrum has crossed the line into Satan's territory? How do you know when it's time to get help from a professional? All this and more on this episode of The Great Equalizer.

Episode 34: FIRST FOODS!

WITH SARAH BOOYENS

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam and Charlene are period twins, because friends who bleed together stay together! PLUS, we talk weaning, solids, toddler foods and picky eaters. Folks, we’ve said it before and we’ll say it again… WE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT WE’RE DOING. But in this episode we acknowledge that the best guidance we ever got about weaning our babies and starting them on solids was(solicited) advice from other mothers. So Sam and Charlene go back to their own weaning experiences, filling listeners in on what worked for them, what didn’t and what they’d do differently if they had to do it all over again.And because she’s IN IT and just published a brand-spanking new blog post on the topic, we also chat to the ever-fabulous girl mom of two @mascara_and_mimosas, who fills us in about her weaning journey, as well as some products that she currently can’t live without..

Episode 33: THE MOTHER LOAD!

WITH RACHEL KOLISI

On this episode of The Great Equalizer, we chat to South Africa’s version of a first lady Rachel Kolisi and we pinpoint exactly why modern moms are so damn tired... Harper's Bazaar dubbs it Emotional Labour and we call it The Mother Load. It's doing 'all the things'. It's finding a way to balance date night and quality time with each child while making sure the fridge is stocked, school fees are paid and there's water in the cat's bowl (let's also not forget about our actual day jobs). It's fighting age-old ingrained inequality but learning to do so without hurting an engaged father's feelings. It's all that, and so much more.

Episode 32: STAY-AT-HOME MOMS!

WITH NADIA GABRIEL

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is a deer in the headlights 😳, Charlene is invisible 👻 and Nadia is here too… Wait, what? Yes, folks. Nadia Gabriel, AKA The Non-Adventures of SAHM, is in the house and we are talking STAY-AT-HOME MOMS. Sam and Charlene grill this mommy blogger about what exactly she does all day. You know, between the Netflix binging and all the blogger freebies. Anyone else curious as to what it’s really like to be a stay-at-home mom? Tune in to hear the ups and downs of Nadia’s upside-down.

Episode 31: IT TAKES A VILLAGE!

AND AUNTIES & UNCLES

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is missing her #1, Charlene is going through the motions and we talk aunties, uncles and that proverbial village that raises our kids. While the TGE ladies would like to think that we have this raising kids thing waxed (*choke*), we have to admit that we wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for our people, our tribe, the village around us that gives the right kind of support exactly when we need it. So in this episode we talk about the super subs – our close friends, brothers, sisters, BILS and SILS. Ag, you guys… We heart you big time. Thanks for loving our kids as if they’re your own. Thanks for recognising when we’re about to crack and showing up exactly when we need it.

Episode 30: SLEEP!

WITH GOOD NIGHT MD JOLANDI BECKER

When it comes to parenting, is there any commodity more precious than sleep? This week on The Great Equalizer, we unpack this foreign concept – the unattainable dream of getting enough zees, assuming your child does the same. Sam and Charlene debate sleep training and discuss how they tackle naps and bedtime in their respective homes. More importantly, they also chat to Jolandi Becker, MD of local sleep consultancy Good Night to get some expert advice on improving your family’s sleep health.

PLUS: We discuss this week’s sponsor, Nurture One, a company dedicated to providing a rich and secure sleep environment for your newborn with their safe and portable nesting cushion

Episode 29: NETFLIX! for moms

#NETFLIXANDCHILL BUT FOR REALS

This week on The Great Equalizer… There’s a tad too much love happening at the Herbsts, Charlene is out of the trenches and we talk NETFLIX FOR MOMS! Guys, Season 2 of Big Little Lies got under way this week and we couldn’t be more stoked. Our advice? Get those kids to bed and put your feet up ASAP because this is a show you don’t want to miss. Sam and Charlene also get chatting about some of their fave binges, as well as some show favourites suggested by our listeners. So if you need to #netflixandchill (but for reals) this episode gives some great suggestions across the board.

Episode 28: BODY IMAGE!

FUCK THE NUMBER ON THE SCALE

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is a bad friend, Charlene is doing Sober October (in June) and we’re talking BODY IMAGE. We chat about our tumultuous relationships with our bodies in the past and how we’re striving to overcome that for the sake of our kiddos. We also have a couple of listeners weigh in with their body image experiences (see what we did there?). At the end of the day, a scale cannot measure beauty, talent, purpose, life force, strength or love. You are far more than a fucking number on a scale and you deserve to feel as fabulous as we know you are.

Episode 27: NEWBORNS

AND MADAGASCAR, A MUSICAL ADVENTURE

Some new moms take to new babies like fairies in a forest, while others feel trapped in an apocalyptic upside-down that no-one really likes to talk about. That’s why, this week, we’re talking about our experience as mothers to newborns. Tune in to hear our take on the fourth trimester and comment on this episode so we know we’re not alone! Let us know how those first few months were for you. Good or bad, there are #nojudgies. We also talk to Jill Gerard, producer and director at the People's Theatre in Johannesburg, about the upcoming children's musical, Madagascar.

Episode 26: BAKER’S DAY

AND WRITER AMELIA MEYER

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is honouring Sober October (in May), Charlene is nesting (huh!?) and we chat about BAKER’S DAY. In this episode we explore the many pressures that come with this all-important milestone. Sam discusses how Elijah’s Baker’s Day reduced her to the foetal position on her kitchen floor, and Charlene listens wide-eyed and terrified with Josh’s Star Baker day imminent. We also chat to author Amelia Meyer (of the blog Suddenly a Mom) about being an adoptive parent and her children’s adventure book on adoption called Finding my Forever Family.

Episode 25: DIVERSE FAMILIES

WITH DR ELNA RUDOLPH

As cookie-cutter suburban moms, we at The Great Equalizer are hyper aware of the need to be more inclusive. Our reasoning? If inclusivity doesn’t start with us, how can we expect our kids to be kind and accepting individuals. Taking it a step further, what if our kids are the different ones? What if our boys are gay? What if our daughters are transgender? We want to be raising them in a world that accepts whoever they’ll come to be. So it starts with us.

Episode 24: AUTISM ACCEPTANCE

WITH AUTISM SOUTH AFRICA

This week on The Great Equalizer. No-one cares about Sam and Charlene BECAUSE we have Autism South Africa in studio with us! ASA education director Vicky Lamb talks us through Autism Acceptance Month and ASA's 2019 theme: Embrace Neurodiversity. We also chat to several autism moms who share their individual experiences in parenting special needs kids and we hear from an adult living with autism about how he's embracing his neurodiversity.

Episode 23: BURNOUT!

WITH MICHELLE PITT

On this episode of The Great Equalizer, Sam doesn’t have her Matric, Charlene slept through the night and we talk BURNOUT with life coach and mentor for moms, Michelle Pitt. Sam and Charlene pick Michelle’s brain about the realities of work/life balance for ALL moms – stay-at-home, work-at-home, full-time corporate moms – we all have similar fears, struggles and inadequacies and most of us are hard-pressed to reach out for help.

Episode 22: BOOB JUICE

WITH BREASTPUMPS & BEYOND

This week on The Great Equalizer… Sam’s urethra has anxiety, Charlene is ambling aimlessly along and we talk boob juice. Your hosts – as well as some guest contributors – share their breastfeeding journeys and we chat about every mom's decision to boob or not to boob (it's not really a question, #youdoyou). And, because we're not experts, this show is sponsored by Breast Pumps and Beyond – thought leaders in the world of parenting and lactation. Tune in to get the deets...

Episode 21: WORKING MOMS

CAN WE HAVE IT ALL?

Okay, let’s hear it for the working moms shall we? 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 As we’ve said before, no-one who is a mom doesn’t work, but this week we discuss the specific hardships some moms face when juggling working for money and working for their family. The juggle is real, ya’ll! 🤡 And so we ask you, dear listener, can we really have it all?

Episode 20: OH NO! IT’S MOMO

AND DEMON PEPPA PIG

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is either living her best life or in the midst of an identity crisis, Charlene still has emotional flu and we talk Momo, Peppa Pig and screen time. The Momo deal has now been exposed to be a hoax but... we should probably still be paying attention to what our kids are ingesting, right? Sam and Charlene unpack this week's pandemonium around Internet safety and we hear from some moms about their screen time rules.

Episode 19: DEALING WITH DIVORCE

PHILLIPPA’S STORY

This week on The Great Equalizer… Dealing with Divorce. That kick-to-the-stomach moment when you realise your happily-ever-after is Just. Not. Happening. Sam and Charlene talk to counsellor, children’s book author and chronic optimist Phillippa Morassi who took the worst moment of her life and flourished through it. ALSO, Sam has man flu, Charlene has emotional flu and we chat a bit about mental health and breaking through the barrier.

Episode 18: MAINTENANCE NIGHT 2.0

DOING THE VALENTINE’S JIGGY

This week on The Great Equalizer... In honour of Valentine’s Day and the month of L.O.V.E, we’re taking Maintenance Night up a notch. Intimacy specialist Totally Me Tracy joins us on the pod to tackle some serious questions our listeners have about sex post babies PLUS this week's sponsor, Lingerie Letters, has a special gift for YOU. Stay tuned to the end!

Episode 17: MOM GUILT

YOU’RE THE WORST

This week on The Great Equalizer: Happy New Year, Sam’s 2019 has officially begun, Charlene has no momentum (thank you unwelcome interruptions) and we hit up some friends about why they are terrible parents. Hello, Mom Guilt – the one true universality within the universal great equalizer that is parenting. Guys, let’s face it, you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t.

Episode 16: THE LIES WE TELL OUR KIDS

IS HONESTY REALLY THE BEST POLICY?

We talk about the lies we tell our kids (peppered with some early sex-ed). How do you feel about being blatantly honest with your kids from the get-go? Or do you sugar coat some tough realities to cushion them from some of life's hardest blows? We talk periods, being naked in front of our kids, body autonomy, Father Christmas and the Tooth Fairy... Essentially, when do kids simply know too much? Should we be protecting them more or arming them with knowledge?

Episode 15: AMANDLA, UBUNTU BABA! AMANDLA!

THE POWER OF THE MOMMY MARKET

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is on the go-slow and a little in denial, Charlene is letting go of her baby boy and it’s fucking hard :( and we talk the Ubuntu Baba/Woolies debacle.

We also discuss whether we'll be boycotting Woolworths for wronging the little guy and chat about the contentious Gillette ad that got the guys' panties in a bunch.

Episode 14: NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS

BRING ON 2019!

This week on The Great Equalizer… BRING ON 2019! Sam is so ready for some fresh starts, Charlene speaks is hitting the reset button and we interview Annette Brokensha, MD of the Johannesburg Children’s Home and discuss how we can help out and lend a hand in the new year. ALSO, we chat New Years Resolutions and review the last 13 episodes of The Great Equalizer. Thanks for tuning in, folks. We look forward to lots more great content in the future.

Episode 13: THINGS TO DO IN JOBURG!

STAYCATION SANITY SAVERS

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is fully booked, Charlene speaks fluent mermaid and we talk about things to do with your kid during your Joburg Staycation. We chat about kid-friendly restaurants we love and out-of-the-box activities that we don’t often think of doing. Joburg has so much to offer and we’re all about getting out of the house and wearing those kids out before they wear you out! ALSO, we review this year’ Snow White pantomime (it was a goody).

Episode 12: JEALOUS MOMS!

IT MAKES YOU NASTY

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is but a shadow of her former self, Charlene is lost and we talk jealous moms! Let’s admit it for a second, we’ve all had bouts of jealousy and moments of inadequacy among others who seem to have their shit together more than we do. Jealousy makes implementing #nojudgies infinitely harder! So tune in and unpack this with us. ALSO, we catch you up on all our giveaways and what’s next on The Great Equalizer.

Episode 11: DISCIPLINE!

RAISING NOT-MURDERERS

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam met a boy and now she’s in love. Charlene is tired of being tired and we’re talking corporal punishment... JOKES! But we do chat to discipline guru Dereck Jackson who gives us some tips on how to wrangle our kids. Dereck is no Jesus, nor is his book the gospel BUT, if you're struggling to lay down the law, there are some super useful tips and tricks here and it's definitely worth a listen.

Episode 10: BOOKS!

RAISING READERS

On this episode of The Great Equalizer, Sam's house is haunted, Charlene is sporting a holiday tan (not) and we talk children's picture books with the gals from Love Books in Melville. PLUS: We showcase four self-made female authors who are killing it in the local book market, and we've teamed up with Kids’ Book Club who is offering one lucky listener something special this festive season. Stay tuned till the end!

Episode 9: CHRISTMAS!

HO, HO, HO

On the latest of The Great Equalizer, Sam is literally the worst, Charlene is taking a breather from projectile vomit BUT it’s all okay because… CHRISTMAS!

Also, we've got your definitive Christmas 2018 gift guide, curated by local paediatric occupational therapist and founder of Sensational Kids, Debbie Mobbs. You're welcome!

Bonus Episode! Being Frank on Tees for Titties

AND KNITTED KNOCKERS

On this bonus episode of The Great Equalizer, we talk tieties, tatas, boobies and breasts with the ladies from Being Frank. This uber cool duo are using design to bring about social change, and they've teamed up with Colourspun and Knitted Knockers South Africa to get people thinking about breast cancer beyond the month of October.

Episode 8: Kids’ Birthday Parties

I’LL CRY IF I WANT TO

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is feeling better (thanks for asking), Charlene is on autopilot, and we talk kids’ birthday parties. In the spotlight: Insta-mommy @thee_blackgeisha_chinadoll and mom blogger Being Me Jen.

Also, we talk titties and ta-tas with the ladies from Being Frank.

Episode 7: Never Would I Ever

EAT SOME HUMBLE PIE

This week Charlene and Sam discuss things they vowed NEVER to do as parents and how they’ve fallen short of most of those promises. Whoops.

We also chat to the lovely ladies behind #MamaMeetUpSA, Rattle and Mum’s Tanya Kovarsky and Mascara & Mimosa’s Sarah Booyens.

Bonus Episode! Children’s book illustrator Megan Bird

COOLEST MOM IN TOWN

In this mini-episode, Sam speaks to Megan Bird, who is not only an effortlessly cool mom, but also an amazing graphic design artist and illustrator, who this year started illustrating children’s books, including a locally illustrated version of Alice in Wonderland, another called What on Earth Am I? (by Lara Salomon) and most recently The Brave Turtle (by Brad Harris), which is literally hot off the presses. (Pic by Bernard Brand)

Episode 6: Mom Friends

AND NON-MOM FRIENDS

Making mom friends might not be as easy as we think it is. And holding onto friendships post baby? Infinitely harder. This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam is solo parenting (again), Charlene has had quite enough, and we talk about keeping and making friends after you become a mom. We also chat about Scary Mommy's hilarious but on-point Mother Judger video and... WE HAVE A GIVEAWAY! So stay tuned till the end of the episode to see how you can WIN with The Great Equalizer.

Episode 5: Child Care

WHO’S LOOKING AFTER LITTLE?

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam calls child services on her ass, Charlene takes stock of what’s important, and we chat about who you leave your child with when they’re not with you.

Sam also chats to Charlene about this week’s sponsor: Littlies Nanny Agency.

Episode 4: Maintenance Night

LET’S GET INTIMATE

This week on The Great Equalizer, Sam gets a sneak peak of what’s to come, Charlene is drowning in her kids’ bodily fluids, and we chat about getting intimate.

*Bow chicka wow wow*

P.S. If you raised and/or gave birth to Sam or Charlene (or their spouses), now would be a good time to head on over to the safety of Episode 5.

Episode 3: Self Care

WHAT’S THAT?

This week on The Great Equalizer, Charlene wades through a sea of emotions and Sam gets her ducks in a row.

Also, we are talking SELF CARE. Do you know what that is? Neither do we! Jokes aside, we come to realise that being the best versions of ourselves is not necessarily cosmetic… Who knew?

Episode 2: Lowering Our Expectations

HOW LOW CAN YOU GO?

On this episode of The Great Equalizer, Sam doesn't know which way is up or down and Charlene's taking it One. Step. At. A. Time.

We also talk about lowering our expectations as mothers. Could this be the coping mechanism we need to ease the pressure of "perfection"? To minimise disappointment and failure?


Episode 1: Hello!

INTRODUCING… YOUR HOSTS

On this first episode of The Great Equalizer, we give some insight into who we are, who we are as mothers, where we find ourselves in this crazy phase of life, and why we've decided to open up about it.

We also mention a blog post by Janelle Hantchett of Renegade Mothering titled I Became a Mother and Died to Live. Read it here.

 Show music:


• Opening theme: Lap Children by Ranch House (freemusicarchive.org)
• Interlude: Only a Dream by John Worthy and the Bends (freemusicarchive.org)
• Closing music: You Afraid by John Worthy and the Bends Interlude: Only a Dream by John Worthy and the Bends (freemusicarchive.org)

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